Who You Are Isn't Who you Were But It's What They Remember
Love Yourself, remember you matter, and give yourself the time you need are wonderful & fulfilling words when we actually get a chance to use them. I have read and reread countless affirmations and self-help products out there to learn the most I could about how to better myself. It’s a need many of us have because as we age, life doesn’t seem to give us the kinds of wisdom we thought we were going to have. I mean I’m aware of what a 401k is now but how to emotionally fix scars that were created as I learned how to live…Where were those school classes?
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Although today mental health is finally a big deal, and younger generations are going to potentially have that skill up their sleeves, it’s not common knowledge how to cope in a healthy way. But in Growth, there are also realizations that can impact us to the same degree as the scars once had. One of those impacts for me was learning a piece of information that is both strange and true.
What was it? Well… “As we grow as humans, there will always be someone who knew and remembered you as you were”
Horrified? Maybe that makes you happy instead…but as I mentioned, it’s true.
Think about Someone who you haven’t seen or heard from in a long time. Remember that person? How do you remember them? Just As they were, right? And, that’s ok, but likely this person has changed. They may have even changed drastically since the last time you knew them. Memories are the past which means when we look back we tend to relate those past moments to our current circumstances down to personality traits. The fact is, the people we don’t interact with often may be much better people or worse people than we knew. They could also be very similar.
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Most of us change and grow as we learn how to traverse this life. But the core of who we are can easily remain the same. That core is meant to say, our values or morals are heavily ingrained into who we are as a person. So if that person you remember hated beets with a passion, they probably still hate beets with a passion.
But if they judged someone for being poor, and because life is well…Life, they could have gone through a period of time where they were poor and their views on that subject changed.
Change is part of a lifetime, we all do it and that’s where wisdom comes from. Changes we had to make and adjust to because life forced us to adapt.
Wondering how this affects you personally? I did ask you to imagine someone else, but someone may have imagined you. And for that, What I have learned and want to pass on Is that we don’t have to hold on to this worry of how others view us, just because we could be the person remembered.
The damage in a sense was already done, and no matter how much you change and grow, unless every single person who saw your changes, and accepts that you have changed for those who are directly in front of you, they will always see you as you were not as you are.
It’s an easy concept but so many of us don’t live our lives understanding this concept and we try to prove to the world how much we have grown. It’s unnecessary because only YOU need to know how you have changed and that should be enough. Be proud of who you have become and will become. Let go of what others think of you and live your best life today. Right now.
Every second you get that choice. Isn’t life actually pretty grand?!
Do you care what others think?
