A Mother’s Duty
Starting the day before having kids was hard because frankly, I’m not a morning person. I don’t think I will ever be a morning person. Now that I have kids, I look at the clock and get up every morning without a second thought. I know I have to get my kids ready, and the day started. Again, still not a morning person, but that’s what Coffee is for! My 12 cups of coffee a day keep me going in a life that never seems to have a break. Yes, I’m exaggerating. Not about the lack of breaks, that’s true. However, I only drink 2 cups of coffee a day at most. But, either way, the moment I became a mother my habits changed, because they had to change. I’m a mom and my kids depend on me right now and will always depend on me in some way. Changing their diapers and food in their tummies, will turn into carpools and eventually the need for me will only be an emotional support.
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Emotionally my children also need me today, to help them understand what they feel and why. To guide them into the right ways of handling those big emotions. And I’m here, trying to learn everything I can and help them the way I feel is best but what is missing in this whole equation? My own emotional needs.
Mom’s (good ones, because bad ones exist) often forget to care for themselves. And the funny thing is, being a better mom would include taking care of oneself because doing so would actually benefit the kids. But mom’s time and time again forget to do it. Looking to make it better for their kids and many times their partners as well. Partners who may or may not be as involved with those kids.
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But it’s a Mothers duty
Or is it? Is it really up to mom to try and balance it all? Because today, everywhere you look the expectation is clearly and quietly there.
But how does that make any sense? How can someone burn out on all ends, and not become an emotional mess along with a physical representation of distress?
A Mother’s duty is to do it all but without complaining. The complaints mean we don’t appreciate. Or that we are just emotionally unstable women who are probably a burden on our significant others.
And how can the world continue to justify these expectations of mothers?
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As cost of living has gone up, the pandemic is slowly decreasing and increasing at the same time...job loss and quitting is still at an all time high. The stress of life on parents are now at the point of breaking many and Moms have less emotional support, more judgement along with having records highs again for losing jobs based on Gender.
Yes, it’s true, more Women were fired in this crisis then men, and more moms had to give up their careers to care for the kids during initial phase of the Pandemic.
But it’s a mother’s duty!
As we sit today, with death and hospitalizations all around us. Along with the demands of our daily lives. It’s a mother’s duty to ask another human for help. And to finally be heard. We aren’t ok, and we won’t be for a long time because frankly, it’s not actually JUST...a mother’s duty.
How do you feel about the expectations we have on Mothers?
