Lessons To Learn Before Your 30’s
Ever wish you could talk to your younger self? I know I have not only wished it but have played out how I would have preferred my life to go many times. Almost like the fantasy of fixing my biggest mistakes and not having to live the consequences of those actions. But, those are just as I said. Fantasies and while I could dwell on what could have been in my life, I realize how blessed I am that the mistakes happened so that I was able to learn the lessons. Can’t say they haven’t come in handy from time to time. That doesn’t mean I don’t try to tell every young person as often as I can the lessons I have learned so that they don’t make the same mistakes. And while I know most of them won’t listen, maybe one don’t have to live their own version of the consequences of those mistakes.
Here Are the Lessons I Learned:
1. You’re enough. If someone is making you feel any less than, they aren’t worth having around. Including a job. You don’t have to stick with anyone or anything that is going to hold you down.
2. Don’t stress about your future, everything will happen when it’s time. We can try to have goals to do this or that by a certain age but if you get things sooner or later, it’s not going to bet anyone in an imaginary race of life. Just live the life you are living and keep trying to obtain your goals. It doesn’t matter if half of your friends have kids already and you wanted a child. It will happens when it happens.
3. Your body is beautiful. If you want to gain, lose, or maintain your weight. Get surgery or whatever the case is, don’t do it because you want to be prettier or better. Do it because you want to feel better. In other words, getting a nose job because you think your ugly isn’t going to change how you feel about your face, but loving you for you is going to make that nose job to fix that breathing issue you have had your whole life. Because you are perfect just as you are. And if you feel like you aren’t…refer to number 1.
4. Take the Risk. When you have a lot less to lose is the time to try that idea out, or travel abroad. Do that dream and see how it goes!
5. Don’t do what others want you to do, do what you feel is best. You can spend your whole life stuck in the cycle of pleasing others. Let that go. That will never make you happy and people always demand more and take advantage of you when you do this.
6 .Your parents are just like you, but older with life experience. This means they are not always going to give you perfect advice and they are also having a hard time trying to figure out life. But they will likely try to help you as much as they can by telling you as much as they found out so you don’t make their mistakes. This means they love you. But it also means it’s ok if you don’t want to take their advice. Also because they are just like you, remember they have feelings. And they are not mentally perfect. Because just like you have your own issues, they have issues. They have no idea what they are doing any more than you do.
Photo by Karsten Winegeart on Unsplash
7. A degree means you get to a higher salary or position faster but it does not guarantee you a job, and a lack of a degree doesn’t mean you can’t make it in the career you want but it does mean you have to work 3 times as hard as everyone else with that degree because you have to prove your better.
8. Money is fantastic, but with balance. Want that money, Get the money you desire, but make sure you aren’t selling your soul to get it. Look at it this way, if you become a multi-millionaire but you never get to see your family and friends & you don’t have time freedom, because all you're doing is trying to find ways to make money, that’s not worth it. Your problems can be solved with money but it can also create many other issues. Balance with money will truly solve the problems, but time freedom will also solve a ton of problems as well. Determine what you want in life, and how you can achieve the money you desire along with the balance to keep you mentally and physically happy.
9. Forgive people AND YOURSELF. This doesn’t mean you have to forget what they did or keep them in your life. But you don’t need to hold on to that anger any longer than necessary. So forgive them for yourself, and move on happily. Then share that same compassion you have had for others with yourself. We all make mistakes, learn from them and accept it as a lesson. Then bring the peace into your life again because your worth it. And each day is an opportunity to try to be better.
10. It’s not always about you. You are the center of your own world because it’s your world, but people have their own problems and you may be the last thing on their minds. Including your parents. For example, if your parents get divorced it has nothing to do with you and they shouldn’t stay together for you either. That was a relationship that needed to end, just like the relationships you had that ended needed to end. Or your friend has been less talkative because they are trying to start a business or study. Or shoot they may be in love and just living that happy high. None of that has to do with you. Let people live! Don’t be selfish with expectations.
