Mom and Dad Stereotypes
I’m currently writing this with my son on my bed to keep him calm aka getting into everything for a minute…watching some car youtube video and my daughter who can’t even sit up yet, is in her bassinet propped up. Why do you ask? Well my husband is on his weekly call that he hosts and I’m avoiding my job because once I see the emails, and things I have to do, well…I panic! And with my husband on his call and my kids needing something to calm them down, I figured…now is the best time to take my lunch hour.
My lunch hour isn’t filled with food and a moment to myself. Nope it’s taken up by the need to make sure my kids are ok and my husband is able to do something. Yes, your right if your thinking what I’m thinking. I have a job too. And that job requires just as much out of me as my husband. Also, my salary is just as important to my family.
I can’t say this exact situation occurs with my husband as well but that’s the society we live in. The entire company knows I have kids and they mention it often. They will ask me how the kids are, and if they hear them in the background they think…oh she is dealing with the kids right now too. But when my husband has the kids in the background they try to make him feel bad about having kids around.
Like it’s all my responsibility to work and have these kids. But you see it’s not fair in either side. Because he isn’t allowed to be a dad during work hours and I’m mom always but I have to get my job done. However, people just don’t think my job matters, they need me to do it, and it’s the same as many others on my team, but when I do it…its more like a secretary. And my husband is more like the boss.
Not fair but truth. Not right but reality. And I felt the need to just tell the world again and again, I wish the United States would change. I wish the world would change. And value both Mom and Dad. Dad is wanted and needed by the kids and Mom is also the head of the household financially.
Dad is missed when he takes calls, and Mom can’t do it all.
Why is this still ok today when the world is needing to come together, not bogged down by stereotypes that we should have gotten rid of decades ago.
But alas, this is life!
