Fed Is Best But Breastfeeding Is Amazing Too
This is a subject that hits home for a lot of moms and while they will eventually forget about it altogether when your baby is born until they are at least 6 months old, it’s going to be a subject/ question brought up often. Breastfeeding or Formula?
Now I’m under the view of Fed is best. No, not the whole, women shouldn’t breastfeed view. The one where a child is eating, happy, and most importantly healthy. So, if that means mom is feeding baby with breast and that baby is well fed and Healthy that’s AMAZING! If mom is feeding baby with formula and that baby is well-fed and healthy, that’s also AMAZING!
Mom’s bully moms all the time and this is a subject that so many mothers and midwives and doulas are very inappropriate. We should all have the right to feed our children how we feel is best as long as it’s best for that child. And best for that child has had options since Formula came out in 1865 when Justus von Liebig, a Chemist patented and marketed the first infant food.
Of course, back then it wasn’t that great but that was also 155 years ago. Read that again, and let me help you…ONE HUNDRED and FIFTY-FIVE years ago.
Why does that matter?
Because Formula has been perfected for what it is in those last 155 years. And it’s perfectly safe for infants. So, there are zero reasons to tell a mother she shouldn’t use it if that is what she wants to feed her child.
On the other hand, if a mom is trying her hardest to breastfeed her child and that’s what she wants to give her baby. Nature’s immunities and perfect nutrients for the baby. Then there are Zero reasons to tell a mother she shouldn’t do that.
The best food for a baby 99.9 percent of the time is breastmilk yes. But 99.9 percent of babies are also going to live happy and very healthy lives with formula.
I can try to say that in more ways but I think my point is obvious. We as moms HAVE to stop bullying other moms about this because frankly, it’s no one’s right to know how we will feed our kids or to decide for us if the baby is fed and healthy.
Not even a medical professional…yes that includes you too midwives and doulas. You don’t get to tell a mother that she shouldn’t use formula. (this excludes situations where formula or breastmilk is making baby sick, which I shouldn’t have to say but people like to troll)
I was born in the ’80s and I was formula-fed. Today I am a healthy woman in her 30’s. My brother as well, and he is also a healthy, tall man in his 30’s.
My kids are two and 5 months, and they are healthy, not overweight, and happy as can be.
But here is what is happening…We have our opinions on what all parents should do, we try to impose that on others because we think we are right no matter what. Then we bully others if they don’t do as we think is best.
That’s not where it stops!
After that, the Mom who was bullied becomes Angry and starts to push why she does what she does like the actual right way and the cycle continues.
So breastfeeding moms feel alone in their struggle and Formula feeding moms feel like they aren’t doing enough as a mom even though they also struggle. Aka was also alone in the struggle.
What Mom’s ALL need is love and respect. Let us give it to them and remove the pressure to be perfect according to whatever the latest societal moral decisions are.
