You Can't Make Everyone Happy
Life can feel lonely, no matter how many people surround you. It’s a misconception that the social media we see and the people we call friends are reality. Not to say people don’t have fantastic friends and family in their lives. Some have been blessed with the most fantastic people who support them and love them truly unconditionally. It’s the unconditional part that is hard to find. And humans can feel the lack of real love even in a crowded room, leaving you to feel lonely. So what do many of us do? We strive to feel better by making everyone around us happy in order to prove to them that we are those great friends and family members. This way they can love us the way we have wanted to be loved. This just doesn’t work.
The Good people aren’t perfect, and the Bad people don’t deserve it, so when trying to please others while forgetting your own needs and boundaries, the end results will end in disaster for you. It doesn’t have to be an outwardly seen disaster but when your heart and soul are breaking on the inside, it’s clear, doing for them isn’t fixing it for you or them. Because expectations don’t diminish…they grow.
Including those same Family and Friends, because without setting boundaries, they expect you to behave and be someone they think you should be.
And we should all be ourselves, not who the world thinks we should be.
There are no If, And or But’s to that statement, because being who you are is what not only you deserve but precisely who should be accepted.
What do I mean by this?
You can try and do precisely as everyone wants you to do and because it will never be enough, you will always chase their happiness, not yours.
But it’s not your job to provide happiness to others.
And being a good friend or family member isn’t doing as someone else deems is right or wrong. Because humans don’t have life all figured out, how can one person know what is best?
They can and will know what is best for themselves, and that is perfectly fine to set boundaries and relay those to others but it’s not ok to want someone else to behave how you deem they should behave in order for them to be considered a good friend or family member.
By trying to be that good friend or family member, you are more likely to lose who you are in the process because it stops being about nurturing a relationship, and it becomes all about nurturing their wants and needs.
We shouldn’t treat others with disrespect either, but when we love unconditionally, respect comes naturally.
Are you trying to make everyone happy? Or have you found your own inner peace?
