Why Can’t We Put Our Phones Down? Setting Boundaries In An Always connected world

Let’s be real—most of us are glued to our screens. We wake up and the first thing we do is check our phones. Before we even brush our teeth, we’ve scrolled through emails, glanced at Instagram, and maybe even read a few headlines that immediately raise our blood pressure. Then we move on to our laptops, our TVs, our smartwatches—because everything, everything, is designed to keep us plugged in 24/7.

And honestly? It’s exhausting.

But here’s the thing: disconnecting in an always-connected world feels nearly impossible. We tell ourselves that we have to check our notifications, that we can’t ignore an email, that we should respond immediately to a message because that’s just how things are now.

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Except... that’s a lie.

We don’t actually have to be available every second of the day. We don’t have to be drowning in notifications or checking our phones at red lights. And we definitely don’t have to feel guilty for setting boundaries with technology.

So let’s talk about how to unplug without losing touch, how to set boundaries with our devices (without feeling like we’re missing out), and most importantly—how to take back control of our time, focus, and mental well-being.

Before we dive into solutions, let’s be honest about the problem:

We are addicted to being connected.

Not in the dramatic need-rehab kind of way, but in the subtle, this-feels-normal-even-though-it’s-definitely-not kind of way.

Technology is built to be addictive. Social media thrives on endless scrolling. Notifications create urgency where there is none. And the worst part? It feels productive to be constantly plugged in—even when it’s just draining us.

Think about it:

  • How often do you check your phone for no reason?

  • Have you ever refreshed your inbox even though no new emails came in?

  • Do you feel weirdly guilty for not responding to texts right away?

  • Have you tried to take a break, only to find yourself reaching for your phone out of habit?

If any of this sounds familiar, don’t worry—you’re not alone. We’ve been conditioned to feel this way.

But that doesn’t mean we have to stay stuck in the cycle.

Let’s be clear: I’m not saying you need to throw your phone into a lake and move to a cabin in the woods. (Unless you want to—then by all means, live your best life.)

What we do need is a middle ground. A way to stay connected without feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, and over it.

Here’s how we can start:

1. Implement Micro-Detoxes (Because Cold Turkey Never Works)

Telling yourself “I won’t touch my phone all day” is like swearing off sugar—you’re just going to crave it more. Instead, start small:


No screens for the first 30 minutes after waking up (seriously, let your brain wake up first).
A “no-phone” rule at meals (because food tastes better when you’re actually paying attention).
A 10-minute break from screens every hour (set a timer if you need to).

Small shifts add up, and these tiny detoxes will help retrain your brain to function without constant digital input.

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2. Turn Off the Noise (a.k.a. Unnecessary Notifications Must Go)

Do we really need to know the second someone likes our photo from three days ago? Probably not.

Do we need to check work emails outside of work hours? Absolutely not.

Go through your notifications and shut down anything that isn’t actually important.


🚫 Disable social media notifications (you’ll check them when you want to, not when your phone tells you to).
🚫 Set specific times to check emails (twice a day is usually more than enough).
🚫 Use “Do Not Disturb” mode during deep work, meals, and sleep.

Every little ping is stealing your focus—reclaim it.

3. Create a Digital Curfew (Because Late-Night Scrolling is a Trap)

We all know we should stop scrolling before bed, but... we don’t.

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The endless TikTok videos, the late-night Twitter drama, the one more episode on Netflix—it’s all too tempting. And yet, we know it messes with our sleep, drains our energy, and makes mornings miserable.

So here’s the fix:


📵 Set a tech curfew (e.g., no screens after 9 PM).
📵 Charge your phone outside the bedroom (or at least far enough away that you can’t reach for it half-asleep).
📵 Swap screens for something that actually relaxes you—reading, journaling, listening to music.

Your future, well-rested self will thank you.

4. Set Social Media Limits (Because Let’s Be Honest, It’s a Time Suck)

We think we’ll “just check Instagram for a second,” and suddenly it’s been 45 minutes and we’ve watched 17 videos about a dog befriending a duck.

Social media is great in small doses, but if it’s taking up hours of your day, it’s time to set some boundaries:


⏳ Limit app usage (most phones let you track screen time and set daily limits).
⏳ Unfollow or mute accounts that don’t add value.
⏳ Take social media-free weekends (or at least a day off each week).

The world will keep spinning even if you don’t check Instagram for a few hours. Promise.

5. Communicate Your Boundaries (Because People Need to Know You’re Not Always Available)

One of the hardest things about setting digital boundaries? The guilt.

We feel bad for not responding right away, for missing a call, for saying no to another Zoom meeting. But here’s the thing—we teach people how to treat us.

If we respond instantly to everything, people expect it. If we don’t set boundaries, people assume we don’t have any.

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So let’s change that:
📢 Let work know your email hours (and stick to them).
📢 Tell friends and family when you’re not available.
📢 Remind yourself that urgent for them doesn’t mean urgent for you.

Once you start setting boundaries, things shift.

💡 You’ll have more time for real conversations.
💡 You’ll feel less stressed and overwhelmed.
💡 You’ll actually focus (like, for real, not just for five minutes).
💡 You’ll sleep better, think clearer, and feel more present.

In short: You’ll feel human again.

At the end of the day, setting boundaries with technology isn’t about being anti-connection. It’s about choosing how you engage with the world—on your own terms.

You deserve time away from the noise. You deserve focus, peace, and rest. And most importantly?

You deserve to live your life without feeling like you have to check your phone every five minutes.

So tell me—what’s one digital boundary you’re setting this week? Drop it in the comments! 👇

Kaitlyn Bracey

Who Am I? The face behind this screen is easily seen at Youtube.com at GBRLIFE or the VLOG Page. But, I know that doesn't answer the question as to who I am. I'm a Mom, Wife, and full-time employee, who also happens to own her Own Vlog, Blog, Podcast, and Clothing Line. I have two kids of my own and 2 step kids and I’ve been married to a wonderful man since 2017. My 9-5 job is in the Technology industry so I deal with men all day, but I love getting to learn new things and helping humanity grow in the technology realm. On the side, I have always been a writer and I happen to talk a ton so GBRLIFE came into fruition along with a couple of books. I have loved every minute of GBRLIFE and I'm happy to share it with all of you. Please keep reading, commenting, following, buying, and subscribing! You make all of this possible and worth it. SO to finally answer the Who am I question...well I'm you! My Journey is your Journey!

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