Selfish Or Narcissistic?
These types of people have a serious lack of consideration for others. When they enter your family or when they can’t be taken out of your lives due to assorted reasons, it can be so very painful. Knowing that you must interact with someone who doesn’t care about you in any way or who claims they do but their actions prove time and time again that they don’t, it can leave you feeling isolated and unimportant. It can also break down your own securities and cause you to go into various forms of depression. They may even try to make you feel like the crazy one when you call them out for what they did or said. Life turns into a complicated mess when these types of people become a part of it from my experience.
Most people will have a run-in or ten with a selfish person and probably come up with a similar determination. 'I don't really like this person." Whether it's the arrogance or the need to be the center of attention, their personalities can really deter from any positives that they potentially have, even if that person is very insecure and they feed the homeless when they aren't being mean. As a regular person with no medical experience, I can't officially state why a person is selfish or Narcissistic, but I have heard the mythological reasons which I find so interesting and wish they were true...well sometimes, and I have seen these people in action, making me understand what it's like on the other side first hand. And it made me realize that life is just better without these people in my core group of friends and family. I can't help it if someone is selfish or narcissistic at work or in the grocery story, but I sure don't have to let them into my life, when I don't have to.
The biggest complication is that these people don’t seem to know or understand that they are the problem. They will fight tooth and nail about how others cause the issues because nothing is ever their own fault, since they are so perfect. How could the things they do affect anyone negatively but everything you do and say that doesn’t benefit them, is a problem and they will make sure that you know you’re the problem? It’s actually quite sad for them when you truly think about it but it doesn’t make the situation any better being sad that they can’t understand or choose to not understand. Especially because this is not curable, so feeling bad about what they can’t see or won’t see, only puts you in danger of sticking around and trying to fix them.
According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by the American Psychiatric Association here are the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder include these features:
Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
Expecting to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
Exaggerating your achievements and talents
Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
Believing that you are superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people
Requiring constant admiration
Having a sense of entitlement
Expecting special favors and unquestioning compliance with your expectations
Taking advantage of others to get what you want
Having an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
Being envious of others and believing others envy you
Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner
Actions always speak louder than words and words can cut with a knife so when those two possiblities are your daily life in a negative manner, it can be hard to feel sane and that alone is not worth it. Making these people a cancer and not worth letting them in, in the first place.
