Helping Kids Feel Safe When the World Feels Unpredictable

Let’s face it: parenting is no easy feat on a good day. Throw in unpredictable events like natural disasters, major world news, or even local tragedies, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. As parents, our primary instinct is to protect our children, but how do we create a sense of security when the world itself feels anything but stable?

The good news is that we can take actionable steps to help our kids feel safe and secure, even in uncertain times. Studies show that children thrive on stability, routine, and honest yet age-appropriate communication. Let’s dive into some practical strategies and explore why they work, backed by data and research.

1. Be Honest, but Keep It Age-Appropriate

Children are perceptive little humans. Even if you’re trying to shield them from unsettling news, they’ll pick up on your tone, your stress, or snippets of conversations. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), when kids don’t have the full story, they’ll fill in the blanks themselves—often imagining scenarios that are far scarier than reality. A 2018 study published in Developmental Psychology found that children’s anxiety levels are significantly reduced when they receive honest, age-appropriate explanations about stressful events.

What You Can Do:

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  • For young children (under 7), keep explanations simple and reassuring. For example, “There was a big fire, but lots of people are helping to keep everyone safe.”

  • For older kids, you can offer more details, focusing on the positive actions being taken, like firefighters’ heroic efforts or community donations.

  • Always follow up with, “Do you have any questions?” This opens the door for them to share their concerns.


2. Maintain Predictable Routines

When the outside world feels chaotic, routines can be a lifeline. Research published in the Journal of Family Psychology found that consistent family routines improve children’s emotional well-being and provide a sense of stability. Another study by Fiese et al. (2002) emphasized that routines help reduce stress in children during times of uncertainty.

What You Can Do:

  • Stick to your daily schedule as much as possible, even if disruptions occur.

  • Create a visual schedule for younger children. Seeing what comes next (breakfast, playtime, storytime, bedtime) can be incredibly reassuring.

  • If your routine changes temporarily, explain it clearly: “We’re going to Grandma’s house for a few days, but then we’ll come back home and do our regular things.”


3. Encourage Open Conversations

Kids—especially older ones—may have big feelings about the things they hear or see. A 2020 study by Common Sense Media found that 48% of tweens (ages 8-12) and 69% of teens (ages 13-18) reported feeling anxiety over world events they saw on social media. Creating a safe space for them to share their feelings is crucial.

What You Can Do:

  • Use open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling about everything?” or “What have you heard about what’s going on?”

  • Avoid dismissing their feelings. Instead of saying, “Don’t worry about that,” try, “It’s okay to feel nervous. Let’s talk about it together.”

  • Share your own coping strategies in a kid-friendly way, such as taking deep breaths or writing in a journal.

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4. Focus on the Helpers

As the beloved Mr. Rogers famously said, “Look for the helpers.” This approach is backed by psychology: focusing on positive actions and solutions reduces fear and builds resilience. A study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology (2015) found that highlighting acts of kindness during crises helps children process traumatic events more positively.

What You Can Do:

  • Highlight the role of community helpers, like firefighters, doctors, or volunteers.

  • Involve your kids in small acts of kindness, like donating toys or writing thank-you notes to first responders.

  • Share uplifting stories from the news to balance out the negative ones.


5. Teach Healthy Coping Skills

Helping kids learn to manage their emotions early on sets them up for long-term resilience. Studies from the Child Development Journal emphasize the importance of teaching kids emotional regulation skills, which can reduce anxiety and improve their overall mental health. According to the National Scientific Council on the Developing Child (2015), teaching coping mechanisms helps children build stronger stress-response systems.

What You Can Do:

  • Practice deep breathing exercises together (try “smell the flower, blow out the candle” for younger kids).

  • Encourage creative outlets like drawing, dancing, or storytelling to express feelings.

  • Teach mindfulness with kid-friendly apps like Headspace for Kids or by doing a simple body scan exercise.


6. Limit Exposure to Distressing Media

Constant exposure to upsetting news can amplify kids’ fears. A 2017 study by the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) found that excessive media consumption during crises correlates with increased anxiety in children and adolescents.

What You Can Do:

  • Monitor what your kids are exposed to, especially on social media or TV.

  • Set limits on screen time and encourage alternative activities, like outdoor play or family board games.

  • Watch the news together (if age-appropriate) and discuss it in real-time to address any concerns.


7. Take Care of Yourself, Too

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Your kids pick up on your emotional state, so it’s important to model healthy coping mechanisms and self-care. The APA emphasizes that parental stress directly impacts children’s sense of security. A 2021 survey by the American Family Survey reported that 53% of parents felt their own stress levels were affecting their children’s behavior.

What You Can Do:

  • Set aside time for your own self-care, whether that’s a hot bath, a workout, or a chat with a friend.

  • Be honest with your kids if you’re feeling stressed, but reassure them: “I’m feeling a little worried, but I’m taking steps to feel better.”

  • Seek professional support if you’re struggling—it’s a sign of strength, not weakness.


Unpredictability is part of life, but by fostering open communication, maintaining routines, and teaching coping skills, you’re giving your kids the tools they need to navigate uncertainty with confidence. Remember, parenting doesn’t require perfection—just showing up with love, patience, and a willingness to listen goes a long way.

How do you help your kids feel safe during challenging times?

Share your tips and stories in the comments below—you never know who might need your wisdom today.

Kaitlyn Bracey

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