Father to be? This is What You Need To Know
Actual photo of my Daughter in Utero….Now you know what my insides look like with a baby in it. - Kaitlyn, GBRLIFE LLC
Hey Dad! I’m sure you’re still getting used to that term being referred to as you but that’s your new name! DADA at first but Dad will come much faster than you can imagine. So what brought you here? Your Significant other is going crazy and treating you like your worse than the trash at your house?
Well that’s hormones for you. Here is the deal, that’s not going to get better, it’s going to get worse.
However, there is a difference between deal with a mean person due to hormones and dealing with a bad person. It’s simple to know, are they treating you like it’s your job to treat them like a princess? Well that’s just a bad person. Are they treating you like you should be helping them through this pregnancy?
Yea that’s your job, Sorry not sorry. Because Mom and Dad have their jobs to do from the moment of conception.
Pregnancy comes with:
Hormones, pain all over your body, Lack of sleep, the constant need to go to the bathroom, carpel tunnel, headaches, backaches (not including the pain all over, it can be debilitating), getting poked and prodded constantly, gas, heartburn ( and I mean BAD heartburn), The inability to eat what you want, but cravings to eat things you shouldn’t, nausea, and believe me when I say this list could keep going.
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If you are not helping your partner through this, then you need to take a look in the mirror and decide what kind of person you want to be right now. The good person or the jerk.
Now I know, she is mean. I get it. And that’s not just ok, you can tell her she is being mean and still work through problems, but you should absolutely be way more understanding of the cause. It’s not something that’s easy to just turn off when your angry and you want to cry and you hurt, ect. Then you say, hey babe do you want to go out for dinner?
Seems innocent but it’s not because she probably already feels like a whale, can’t fit into most of her clothing but doesn’t want to buy the maternity clothing yet, and now you want to leave the house?!
But that snapping isn’t about you and that’s the part you can take into consideration.
Really, It’s not about you anymore because once baby comes it’s still not about you.
We all need me time, and you will want to and need to have moments where you need to make yourself the priority but most of the time, it’s about those kids.
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So, if you want to sleep in while she is breastfeeding or giving the bottle because you have to work tomorrow. Yes, that’s just selfish
You need to get up and get the things done that she can’t get done. And you need to do it for your family. It’s not a favor, it’s not help… It’s what is right to do for your family. And this goes the other way around too. Mom and Dad are equally required to care for child.
After saying all of that. Here is what you need to know:
Kids are loud, messy, gross, and amazing, which means you get less sleep, have to constantly clean and buying dinner will usually sound like a great idea
You aren’t carrying the child, so stop saying anything about how much the pregnancy is hard
You have every right to talk about what your going through
Yes, it’s scary
Yes, it’s going to be ok.
Seriously it’s going to be ok
Your child will bond with you even if they weren’t in your belly for 9 months
No, they don’t automatically just want mom, they may prefer you the moment they are born
If you can change a diaper, make a bottle, clean, cook, etc... DO IT!
It’s not mom’s job , it’s the FAMILY’s job.
Not it’s not only your job, it’s her job too
Your job doesn’t make your responsibilities less in your home
Remember your human and need breaks
You will feel like you suck at parenting all the time, we all do and that means you care…making you probably a great parent
Forgive your partner for some of the mean things she has said, especially during the 3rd trimester and labor
Everything you love to do, and who you are inside is still possible and you don’t change but you do grow as a human
The responsibility of taking care of a child is INTENSE but it’s amazing
You will love your kids so deep it hurts
Sometimes you will want to run away because your kids are crazy. Maybe you just wish they go to sleep, or someone adopts them for a couple days. All totally normal
They might be jerks so you have to help your kids learn how to not be jerks…not by being a jerk yourself but by setting the right examples of the right way to behave. They look up to you.
Go to the doctor’s appointments, it’s great for the support but that’s your baby too. And while the doctors will address the Baby needs and mom needs that just because they are the patients but if you have questions and want to see your child. Go there as well (if they allow you to during the Covid-19 Pandemic)
Your role in the family is EXTREMELY important. They often talk about people with DADDY issues, not mommy issues. And it’s shown that if your participation in your kids lives make them happier, less aggressive people.
And Finally…YOU GOT THIS!!! Don't worry about anything I said except to be the best person you can be for your family. Congratulations!
