Breaking the Blame Cycle: Society's Unfair Judgment of Women in Failed Relationships
Another breakup or story spreads across the news, and we watch with our personal opinions immediately spewed across our minds. Was it his fault, her fault, or should we even care? It’s in the public eyes but we look at those we see on televisions, laptop screens, and our phones like they are made for our pure entertainment, and their tragedy is just another topic to discuss in our daily small talk. It’s not small to them, it’s real. They are real. Celebrities, and their lives. So when we decide to integrate ourselves and our unwarranted opinions onto these real-life personal moments, Why does society love to blame the women involved?
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Whether it’s because of a husband’s money laundering scandal or another marriage failure, the women in the story are more often added to the television screens and all of our media outlets as the perpetrator. Not to say the men involved come out unscathed but it’s clear when someone says the name Jennifer Lopez for example, most people immediately find the need to mock her and her multiple beaus.
This is baffling because we blame women for failure and praise men for the success of a woman in the same breath.
If Jennifer Lopez wins an award, the world looks behind her to see who propelled her to that spot, assuming she must have used the bedroom in order to be successful. Then when a relationship she is in fails, it’s because she “can’t keep them “.
With the failure rates of marriages and relationships at an all-time high, Hollywood relationships are deemed to be successful if they last just 10 years. The Culture of blaming “Her” has become far more obvious and much more distasteful.
Not to say these thoughts won’t continue but, frankly, they just prove sexism exists.
A woman should never have to stay with a partner who has cheated, Become abusive, or fallen out of love all because society will want to blame her alone for the failures, that it took two people to destroy.
Success comes with hard work and discipline in the long days that turn into months and eventually years, often done behind the scenes, so when you see a successful woman walking, remember, she probably got there because of her skills in her craft, and nothing to do with a bedroom. And whether or not she has someone by her side, only says she knows she’s worth more than society could ever accept.
How do you feel about the way we portray women in failed relationships?
