How Kids Change A Relationship or Marriage
Thinking about having kids and your just not sure if it’s worth it? Thinking if you have kids it will solve the problems in your current relationship? Maybe you are just curious what happens to people when they have kids. You came to the right place because I’m about to lay it all out.
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Let’s start with the fact that kids are wonderful and they bring back the life to people. They also make you zombies and stress you out beyond breaking point but you love them so much it’s ok. Well, it’s not ok but It’s something you deal with because of just how much you love those little buggers. Seriously, it’s worth it but that being said that doesn’t mean every aspect of life stays the same once you bring a baby into this world.
Everything Changes.
Love that morning cup of coffee and want people to leave you alone until you have it. Not happening with a child. Think you have time on the weekends to get some stuff done? Not with kids. And this can go on for days of what changes, but the focus is on relationships this time around. Yup, that changes.
Once you have a child, you get to see what your partner really does under stress, how lazy they are or aren’t, and if you truly have the same belief system. And all of that…it can break you or make you.
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Because I have said it many times, YOU LOVE YOUR KIDS. It’s not something that comes, it’s just there. You FALL in love and you would take on anyone or anything that could hurt them, including your significant other. So that’s where Trust, Loyalty and having similar opinions come in to play.
Want to have your kids in a ton of activities? Maybe your partner thinks that’s to much and they should choose what they want when they are old enough. Want to raise your kid Christian but your partner may think they should be Jewish. Or how about just what they are going to wear, eat, watch, Ect. Choices are the parents for the child until they are old enough and that’s the problem, because you BOTH created that child, so how are you going to handle it?
People who break up after kids, it’s not because they had kids. It’s because they got know each other so well after those kids came around and realized they just feel to differently on how they plan on raising those kids and it’s just causing issues.
Well that’s potentially one of the issues.
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Then intimacy comes into place. Who has the time! You’re exhausted and want a minute to yourself. But little by little it starts to diminish into nothing. Unless you work on it.
And if you don’t work on all these issues, you end up with MANY others, like Jealousy because you think your spouse will cheat on you since it’s been a while, or You just simply grow apart.
That doesn’t mean everything is all doom and gloom! It means kids mean work on every level of life. But if you have a child with someone who is worth being with, who is a great partner in crime. It’s just about trying. If your both trying…you will find your way through. And those kids may just come out really well! PLUS, in many ways you actually bond together even more. For my husband and I, I know we feel like it has made us love each other more. Seeing just how much the other is willing to sacrifice for their family. It’s a beautiful thing that many of us parents have. We aren't unique, which a wonderful thing.
