It’s Not About You…
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Strong words and very much to the point. What did they say, straight to the point? They made sure to state that the contents, and emotions are not about that individual. By saying, it's not about you, it tells the person that they are just a part of the conversation but they are not the subject at hand. It tells the person they aren't the main point of discussion no matter how they feel about the conversation.
Unless maybe, it should be about them. Who are they anyway?
The parent, or in my case, I am a mom. Like so many other moms. The conversations stopped being about us.
Once my kids were born, it stops being me completely. Even in the hospital, they made a fuss about the baby and ignored the mom, so the phrase is valid in my life. Along with so many other mom’s lives. They feel it daily and post about it all over the internet. The younger Generations, just claim we hate our kids, but they couldn't be farther from the truth. The feelings we have towards our children make us want to show them off because they are our trophies and pride mixed together in a full of love bow. Our spawn, our ability to live on are alive and we get to introduce them to this world in every way.
While I did use the word Trophies, that doesn't make a child an object but it does tell everyone the amount we want to show them off. Because when you love someone, you want the world to see just how much
The world usually loves to see our perfect creations as well but what the world also loves is to replace mom/women with just the title of mom.
However, We should still get to be who we are with just the added titles, not replaced.
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This may sound selfish, but how many times a day does a parent think of themselves? The cleaning, cooking, and attention-giving days for those kids. Then it's added with all thoughts about what they need or want and how to fulfill it. Our brains are riddled with.
Along with trying to remember doctor’s appointments and, what day it is.
So when someone talks to you and reminds you that they are speaking again about those kids and not about you, it can start to be disheartening. Because just like most parents, I personally wait for the time when I get to be seen again as just me.
When you say…it’s not about you, I want to remind us all…maybe it should be.
Maybe we should go back in time with our friends, family, spouses, and partners and remember they alone MATTER as the individual. And we should check in on them and not just about those kids.
